Should Divorced Parents Spend the Holidays Together?

My clients ask me this question often.

And the answer is not often cut and dry. It’s more like an onion, with many layers that need to be considered.

When you utilize the collaborative or mediation divorce process, we work collectively through concerns like this with a team of mental health experts who can help be the bridge to help you and your partner answer this delicate question.

Here are some questions to discuss with your ex when you are discussing spending the holidays together:

• While being together, will you be able to put your differences aside?
• Will you be able to create positive and memorable moments?
• Will your child perceive that you and your spouse are getting back together? Giving false hope can be devastating for your children? Discuss this ahead of time with your child
• Together with your ex, create a detailed plan ahead of time– which event will you be together at, how long, how you will handle any issues that may arise, who will handle the discipline should it be needed, who will pay, etc

It’s important when trying to answer this complicated question. We lean towards the solution that strives to keep the family unit intact and the children’s emotional wellbeing at the forefront.

For over 17 years, working as a Family Law Attorney/Mediator, Kevin Chroman has helped numerous couples reach harmonious agreements on divorce, child custody and spousal support through mediation and the collaborative law process.

Reach an agreement with your spouse in the peaceful, cooperative environment created by the Law Office of Kevin J. Chroman. For a free consultation, contact us today!

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Note: This information is general in nature and should not be construed as legal/financial/tax/or mental health advice. You should work with your attorney, financial, mental or tax professional to determine what will work best for your situation.